We've been talking a lot about rape culture lately on the blog, and we are going to be talking more about it this week and into next week. We've talked about what it is and isn't, ways we unintentionally participate in it, and what not to say to a victim of abuse or rape.
I realize that this is a difficult topic, and some of you reading this have probably been raped or assaulted, or know someone who has. So I want to share here something I wrote for NewSpring Church's blog because I believe Jesus wants you to know that you are not alone, it's not your fault, you are valuable, and there are communities of believers who will walk through this with you.
What Would Jesus Say to the Woman Who Has Been Raped?
When I found out the Stanford rapist only got a 6-month sentence, my stomach boiled with rage. My heart broke, not only for his survivor, but also for every rape survivor watching the outcome and growing even more convinced that speaking up won’t make a difference.
Rape happens every day, and it happens to people in and out of the church. According to the National Sexual Violence Resource Center, 1 in 5 women and 1 in 71 men will be raped in their lifetime.
If you’ve been raped or sexually assaulted, people may have lied to you and told you it was your fault or that you’re damaged goods. You might be wondering how rape could have happened to you.
You might be angry at God, but God is not angry with you.
4 Things Jesus Would Want You to Know if You’ve Been Raped
1. You are not alone.
Psalm 9:9 promises us that “The LORD is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble.”
Your pain, fear, anger, and sadness are not too much for God. God loves you just as much today as He did the day He created you. God sees you in your pain and grieves with you, just like He does for all of His children.
After being physically and emotionally abused, a woman named Hagar finally decided she couldn’t take it anymore. She runs away, but in Genesis 16, an angel of the Lord meets her along the road and tells her that her story isn’t over. “She gave this name to the Lord who spoke to her: ‘You are the God who sees me,’ for she said, ‘I have now seen the One who sees me’” (Genesis 16:13).
God wants to comfort you and heal you — even if you’re angry at Him. If you’re mad at God, tell Him. He can take it. Pour out all your emotions. Don’t hold anything back. God will meet you in your pain. Just like He promises in Psalm 147:3, “[The Lord] heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”
If you have been raped, assaulted, or abused and need help RAINN has people to help you via online chat and phone. If you need help finding a local community of believers who will walk through this with you please contact me, and I will help you find one.