10 Specific Things to Teach Our Boys About Sex and Consent

10 Specific Things to Teach Our Boys About Sex and Consent

Now before some of you try to tell me you don’t need to teach your kids about consent because you’re teaching them to wait to have sex until marriage, let me just bust that myth for you. 

First, consent still 100% matters in marriage. Second, statistically, your kids are pretty likely to have sex before marriage no matter what you teach them. If they do, you want them to doing it consensually and not raping people. Sticking your head in the sand, and saying, “Not my child” is not helping anyone. Third, your child may find themselves in a situation where they need to exercise their right to say, “No,” you need to teach them about that right.

Book Review—Sinners in the Hands of a Loving God

Book Review—Sinners in the Hands of a Loving God

What do you think of when you think of God? Where does your impression of God come from? Is He angry? Loving? Jealous? Mean? Kind? Waiting to strike you with lightning or toss you into a terrible place of eternal conscious torment if you don’t pray a get out of Hell free prayer to His Son? 

How do you know? How does your view of God affect your life? The lives of those around you? 

What Do You Do When God Seems to Contradict Himself? (Or What Does God Really Say About Women's Roles?)

What Do You Do When God Seems to Contradict Himself? (Or What Does God Really Say About Women's Roles?)

I was a women who believed in traditional gender roles (despite my personality not being bent at all toward housework and quiet submission). The Bible "clearly says" women are to stay home with their children, submit to their husbands in all things, homeschool, make their home a perfectly clean haven for their hardworking husbands, and bake heavenly casseroles. And women were definitely not allowed to preach, teach, or lead men. People in "authority" taught me that. They had Bible verses to support it. It must be true, right? 

(Side Note: It is horrifically dangerous to build a doctrine on isolated Bible verses taken out of their literary, historical, and cultural contexts.)

6 Mistakes When Reading About Women in the Bible

6 Mistakes When Reading About Women in the Bible

The false teaching that idolizes men, while subordinating and harming women has been allowed to run rampant in the Church in the name of “Biblical Gender Roles” for too long. This teaching reduces women to objects created by God as an afterthought to please and take care of men. It blames women when men lust after us or assault us. And it limits women’s gifts and calling in ways Jesus never did.

Often when Jesus was addressing the legalistic false teaching of the Pharisee’s, He asked them, “Haven’t you read?” The Pharisee’s had the Scriptures memorized, and yet in many cases, they missed the point.

So, if you believe that women have subordinate gender roles in the Church and at home, I ask you:

Haven’t You Read…